So, what makes a relationship healthy?
How do you know if you and your partner are in a relationship that will last? Generally, developing a reliable and trustworthy relationship takes hard work, effort from both partners and of course, time. It won’t happen overnight, but it’s worth it.
For a relationship to become strong and remain that way, there are a few some behaviors, attitudes, and practices that should be adopted.
Discussed below are 10 of the ways by which couples can develop healthy habits together.
Interaction is a crucial and important part of any relationship. In fact, it is one of the most important healthy connections you can ever develop in a relationship.
Unfortunately, not every couple knows how to interact effectively or even in any way. Healthy relationships require that the two partners regularly pronounce their love for each other.
Thus, in order to really develop a healthy relationship, you two should develop the ability to really talk about your feelings, attitudes, likes, dislikes, and others. Although it might sound awkward or uneasy, it will create a fun-filled and long-lasting relationship.
Regard in form of appreciation and motivation are very important in developing a healthy relationship. There are different ways by which you can appreciate your partner but the most efficient way is simply by telling them out loud.
Building healthy habits together involves respecting your partner’s time, character, heart, and trust. There are different things people do in a relationship that could injure the personality of your partners like name-calling, negative talking, or intimidation so these are behaviors you want to steer clear of.
Focus on QUALITY time, not just AMOUNT of time.
Quality time is not measured by the amount of time you spend together but rather the activities done during this time. The most important aspect is how engaged you are with each other when you’re together.
There is a big difference between one partner cooking dinner in the evening with the other complaining about their day, or the two of you cooking dinner and dancing around in the kitchen together,
It is a great idea to set aside some time without distractions or cell phones to converse together and share your views about the world at large. Keeping quality time with your partner is essential for building healthy habits together.
There are times where you and your partner will have to be apart. Just as spending quality time together is very important, spending time apart is similarly crucial.
If couples spend too much time together, it could lead to undesirable codependency. Thus, keeping and sustaining healthy habits in a relationship requires balanced limits in terms of time together and term apart.
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder.
Gary Chapman, in one of his books, claims that men and women have five basic love languages. He emphasized that people have unique ways of stimulating and enjoying sensations. These five basic love languages include words of affirmation, quality time, getting gifts, acts of services, and also physical touch.
More so, it is necessary to identify what love languages are and how they sound to you and your partner. Telling your partner what makes you really feel loved will help them relate with you better and keep both of you connected forever.
This is HUGE. Many forget or fail to appreciate others and let them know how important they are to you. We often think about it, but do not bother to show or express it.
Complements and recognition is vital in enhancing our romantic connections. Show the person special to you that you love and admire him or her. This could be done through words, gifts or actions.
Positive vs. Negative
Sometimes, we hate our jobs, get disappointed with our friends, and sometimes our partners just get our our nerves. These events are frustrating and negative. However, we should not allow these incidences to override the positive values of our partners.
Nobody is perfect and that includes your better half. Therefore, instead of focusing on the negative aspects, take an intuitive look at the positive ones and always be good to them.
Choose Your Battles
Relationships are full of ups and downs. Sometimes, you have to argue and fight over issues. However, when bringing issues to the forefront; you need to consciously select your battles.
For example, it isn’t a good idea to argue over using your preferred coffee cup, it’s not a fight worth having. Focus on your real issues at hand, and let the little things go.
Let’s be frank, sex is vital in growing and developing a healthy relationship. Sex is basic; the more you have it, the more you want it.
Unfortunately, the latter is also true. The less you have it, the less you want it, and the less you have feelings towards your partner. So, keep your sex life real and alive. Look for ways to spice it up for optimum satisfaction.
The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. The fact that your colleagues are enjoying certain dividends in their families does not mean you must also enjoy the same in yours.
Every family has their own unique lifestyle and that is what you should strive to identify.
We commonly compare our lives to those of others – like what they have, their homes, attitude, clothing, and lifestyle.
We are also too quick to conclude based on what we see on social media. The reality is that the happiest couples do not compare their relationships with others – but rather focus on making
things right in their own relationship.
It takes years to develop a healthy relationship but just a few minutes to destroy it. In order to build a healthy relationship, you need to inculcate some healthy habits into your relationship. Do you have anything to add to the list? Comment below!